The Truth Abut Men and Their Sons
Hindsight isn’t enough to prepare us for the reality of missed moments
By Roger Reid, Ph.D.|Success Point 360
In my senior year of high school, one of my teachers told me when I was much older, I would look back and remember three or four days that had been the most important — celebrations, landmark birthdays, accomplishments — all sorts of occasions that ultimately became the major events that shaped my life.
Having reached that point of hindsight where I can see quite a distance, I realize he was right.
There are those few days I remember as significant
Not necessarily because they were full of joy, or discovery, or happiness. But because they were days that changed me — forever.
The one that immediately comes to mind is the morning I received the phone call from my brother-in-law telling me my father had suffered a stroke.
Like most young men receiving the initial news of a parent’s failing health, my reaction was predictable:
This wasn’t supposed to happen.
Strokes and heart attacks happened to other people. My dad was strong and healthy and, at sixty years of age, he should have had another twenty good years left in him.
Lots of thoughts ran through my head as I hurriedly packed a suitcase and booked a flight from Denver to Phoenix. At twenty-two, I’d given very little thought to death, and how the loss of a parent would affect me.
Sure, I knew my father wouldn’t live forever. But I’d never considered the possibility he would be missing from my life so soon …